THE GREEN(wald) HOUSE … (growing rosemary & raising a little wolf)

August 3, 2008

France family vacation

Filed under: motherhood stuff, Rosie stuff, misc stuff, Sam stuff, travel stuff - Administrator @ 1:31 pm

We got back last week from an 11 day - 2 wedding - 2 continent trip, and we are all still recovering from the fun, stress and jetlag.
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First was NYC and cousin Jeffrey’s wedding.
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NY was HOT - we didn’t do much sightseeing there as stepping outside the hotel resulted in us all being drenched with sweat. We did walk all the way to Central Park on the first day and had fun playing in the water sprinkler playscape.
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Rosie was fighting some sort of bug and was running a bit of a fever on Saturday and Sunday. So we spent a lot of time just hanging out in the hotel room with GiGi (my mom - who came to town especially to hang out with the kids while we went to the adults-only wedding) and playing with GiGi and ordering room service was just as fun (probably moreso) for the kids anyway.

Then, off to France with Bubby (Joe’s mom) for cousin Neil’s wedding in the Loire valley - and sightseeing in Paris on the way there. That leg of the trip started off on a sour note when we got to the airport (at 7pm) and found out that our 10pm flight was delayed until 11:30pm - ugh! We were not happy about it - but resigned to the fact and settled down for a long wait. The wait became a lot longer as the flight continually got delayed later and later, and we ended up not leaving JFK until 3 in the morning. With 2 EXTREMELY tired and cranky and screaming and crying children and having waited at the airport for 8 hours - it was not a fun way to start the trip. We arrived in Amsterdam tired and hungry and of course missed our connecting flight - but hopped on the next flight out to Paris - and got a second wind and renewed energy once we finally arrived.

We spent 3 days exploring Paris - the parks and playgrounds mostly - though we did do some typical touristy stuff like take a trip down the Seine River and we went to the top of the Eiffel Tower (only to the 2nd level - the 3rd was closed for some reason when we were there).

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Joe and I went to the top of the Arc de Triomphe during naptime one day, saw great views of the city, the Eiffel Tower and Champs Elysses.
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Joe and his mom also got to go to the Musee d’Orsay on the first morning there - while I met up with a mommy friend that I met via the internet for a park playdate with her 2 adorable kids.
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Our last night in Paris, we walked down and had a picnic along the Seine as the sun set, and it was so relaxing and unbelievable, like something out of a movie, with a group of guys playing guitar to add more ambiance to the scene.


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After Paris, we took the TGV (high speed train) to Vendome in the Loire Valley for cousin Neil’s wedding.
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We rented a car and drove with Uncle Bob and Aunt Judy to the small town of Troo (known for its caves and troglodyte dwellings).
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We explored around the Loire Valley for a couple days, went to Vendome - which was one of the larger towns in the area - and saw a really beautiful church and went to a couple restaurants there.
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We went to the small town of Montoire for a couple meals and grocery shopping - and we drove to Amboise and saw the royal castle where Leonardo da Vinci is buried -
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and Rosie got a princess crown
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Neil and Annabelle’s wedding was beautiful and fun. The ceremony was in a field of wildflowers outside Annabelle’s family home, and the reception was in a castle (moat and all).
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There were a lot of other kids at the wedding, so Rosie and Sammy had lots of playmates, and everyone and everything was so well thought out and accommodating and family oriented. It was great, there was so much love evident everywhere!

It was a lot of work with the kids, and I joked to Joe (more than once) that it wasn’t fair that he actually got a vacation from his job, but I had to work overtime on my job for the length of the trip. Aside from a few episodes of extreme tiredness and crankiness resulting in both kids screaming at once, I think both Rosie and Sammy did really well, considering all the traveling and moving around and changes to the schedule they had to endure. We tried to make time each day to cater to the kids and find a park or someplace fun for them to play and run around and just relax and be kids (thus most of the photos of the trip are of playgrounds).

We are blessed and lucky to have been able to have that experience and share it with our kids. There were probably a lot more practical ways we could have spent our tax return this year, but how often do you get a chance to go to a wedding in the countryside in France? The photos and memories are priceless, and I hope that these early trips will foster a love of travel and adventure in both Rosie and Sammy. Even if the best part about traveling sometimes is coming home and sleeping in your own bed.

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July 31, 2008

Breasts welcome here!

Filed under: motherhood stuff - Administrator @ 11:02 am

While shopping at the new Nordstrom store near my house a few weeks ago - I was pleasantly surprised to discover this sign in the ladies room:

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This was the result of a contest sponsored by Mothering.com not too long ago to try to find a universal symbol for breastfeeding mothers. Frustrated by the fact that most mother’s rooms are designated by a bottle - as seen below (also at the same Nordstrom) - Mothering magazine (and the website) wanted a symbol that would promote and encourage breastfeeding and have a universally recognizable symbol to signify an area for mothers and their children.

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I was familiar with the contest and loved the winning design, but this is the first time I have seen the image used in real life. The winner has signed this symbol over to public domain - so hopefully more and more businesses and public areas will be posting this icon and we will be seeing the symbol used more often than the bottle symbol to represent the feeding of a baby.

Speaking of breastfeeding - as I continue to extoll the benefits of breastfeeding in my daily life (to anyone who will listen), and in the interest of putting my money where my mouth is (so to speak - actually it is where Sammy’s mouth is) I have decided to become a breastmilk donor. Since Sam is starting to eat more solids, and I have an abundant milk supply and I am lucky enough that breastfeeding came easily to me, I am going to be sharing that goodness with premature babies and other critically ill babies in desperate need of the best nutrition, the nutrition that only breastmilk can provide.

I would encourage other lactating mommies out there to do the same - the company I am using is Milkin’ Mamas - but you can go to www.milkbanking.net to see how you can become a donor.

Breast is best!

July 14, 2008

My Precious Girl is Three!

Filed under: motherhood stuff, Rosie stuff - Administrator @ 7:30 pm

Wow - Three years ago today - I became a mommy. Well, not really. I was always a mommy - I was just waiting for my kids to arrive. I never imagined that motherhood would be so great, so fulfilling, so exciting, yet so boring, so frustrating, so challenging and so unbelievably tiring all at the same time…

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Rosie has been a bit of a handful lately (to put it mildly). She is definitely asserting her independence. She wants to make her own decisions, and we usually give her the freedom to choose her clothes, shoes, meals, what the activities of the day are (within limits), etc. Somehow, that is not enough anymore. Most of my questions, comments, and instructions are met with a bratty “NO!” these days.

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Oh the patience it takes to stay sane. 8am Mama is a completely different person from 8pm Mama.

8am Mama starts the day off so patient and waits for Rosie’s slow-as-molasses walking, takes time to make sure she is engaged in whatever activity she wants - especially when traveling in the car, picking up whatever toys she has dropped (repeatedly), reads the same books over and over, doesn’t complain when she gets 10 different cups out of the cabinet and fills each one up with an inch of water and spills water all over the ground, patiently cleans up the spilled water along with the microscopic bits of paper from when she uses her scissors to cut up her coloring book, then calmly takes the scissors out of Sammy’s mouth while gently reminding her that I didn’t want her to use scissors when Sammy was awake.
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On the other hand - 8pm Mama tends to say “come ON Rosie - hurry up” when we are walking somewhere, brusquely tosses toys her way with instructions to stop dropping them, refuses to read books more than once (and has been known to skip several pages to expedite the process), exasperatedly sighs “aaaargh” when cleaning up the mess from several cups half filled with water, yells “I TOLD you no cutting right now” while grumbling about cleaning up paper and how dangerous scissors are.

On more than one occasion, I know I have muttered something about “driving me crazy” which I didn’t realize Rosie heard until she repeated her version of that phrase to me last weekend. I think Rosie was trying to listen to music in the car and Joe and I were having a conversation and laughing - and Rosie instructed us to “stop laughing” and we said “why do you want us to stop laughing?” and Rosie replied “Because you are making me drive crazy”.

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She just got her first “official” haircut last Friday - just to trim and even things up (as all I ever really did was trim her bangs and the back to eliminate her mullet look) and her curls are even more evident now. Everywhere we go, people comment on her hair - calling her “curly girl” “goldilocks” etc. The barista at the Starbucks drive-thru said “her hair is so gorgeous - those curls - is it natural?”. I wanted to say - “Nah - I gave her a perm”….

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She loves to laugh, sing, dance, play with bubbles, splash in the kiddie pool, play on the swingset, play in the sandbox, go for walks, go to the park, go to the zoo, go to the library. She is a non-stop bundle of energy. She loves to get her fingernails and toenails painted and she is very good at staying “still like a statue” until they dry. She loves to put lotion on and will go through a whole tub of lotion, greasing up her entire body if I would let her. She still wants to wear dresses every day - the fancier the better. Usually I have to convince her to wear shorts underneath, or “park pants” as we are frequently at parks - sliding or doing activities that require some sort of leg/bottom covering.

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I watched her sleep the other morning, and I was amazed by her long legs, splayed out across her big bed, looking at her long, lean body - and thinking “wow - that body, that little person grew inside me”. I can hardly remember how it felt to hold her newborn body in my arms. When did she become a child? I can’t believe she is already 3 years old. It seems like just yesterday that she was born, yet I feel like she has always been in my life. It is that weird motherhood time warp where time seems to go by so quickly, yet slowly at the same time.
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Happy Birthday my precious, sweet Rosemary. I love you so much!
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July 6, 2008

My Sweet Boy is One!

Filed under: motherhood stuff, Sam stuff - Administrator @ 7:43 pm

Samuel Arthur Wolf is one year old. I can’t believe it. My sweet baby came into this world- on the floor of my bathroom - with a loud grunt/scream and a HUUUUUUUUGE push - in the wee hours of the morning - one year ago today.
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He has changed so much just in the last few weeks. When I look at him, I can see flashes of what he will look like as a young boy, as a teenager, as an adult, and I have almost cried several times in the past week just thinking about his future and how fast he is growing up.
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Aside from walking all the time, he is now consistently saying “mama”. He really is a mama’s boy (and has the shirt to prove it). Sometimes it drives me crazy though, when he screams at the top of his lungs if I dare take 2 steps away from him, or go in the other room. He is not talking much other than Dada, Mama, and Dat - everything else is “dat”. I have still been trying sign language with him, though my efforts are sporadic. I know a lot of his fussiness is from his inability to communicate, so hopefully he will catch on to the signs, or start really talking soon so he (and I) can be less frustrated.

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He is such a stereotypical boy. He loves to bang things together, open and close doors, scoot cars across the floor, and fit things into other things. He is constantly trying to figure out how things work and he gets so excited and laughs and squeals and claps when he is in the midst of another discovery. He also loves to climb stairs, and he makes a bee-line to any stairs he sees. When we are home, as soon as he hears the gate we have on our stairs open or close, he runs over and grabs onto the bars like a prisoner and screams and whines until we open the gate for him and let him climb up and down the stairs for a bit. He’s actually very good at climbing up and going down. He knows that he has to go down on his belly - feet first.

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His body has changed a lot just in the last month. Now that he is walking he has slimmed down a ton. He is no longer my super chunky babe - though he still has enough chubbiness to squeeze and cuddle. His body is longer and leaner and his face is less round.
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I have to admit, when I first looked down between his legs a few minutes after he was born (what is that squishy thing?) I was unsure of what to do with a boy. A girl is easy - I know girl parts, I know how girls think and what girls want and need. But a boy is so … weird, so unfamiliar, so foreign. I was really kind of thinking that I couldn’t bond with and love a boy the way I could a girl. That seems so silly to me now.
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Sammy is such a different baby from how Rosie was. He seems more cuddly, more needy, less independent, more emotional. He is also into everything - all the time - he is non-stop moving and grabbing and pulling. I am constantly saying “uh-uh - not for Sammy” as he reaches for Rosie’s scissors, or a plant, or the (now broken) DVD player. Rosie seemed easier to entertain, or maybe I am just having selective memory - or maybe it is the combination of Rosie and Sammy that is the hard thing.
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I can barely remember how little he was at birth. I hold him now in my arms, all 25 lbs of him, legs hanging over the edge of the glider when we nurse, struggling to keep his big, squirmy body on my lap, and I really miss the tiny, fragile baby. But, I love the toddler, the little boy he has become and is becoming on a daily basis. His laughter brings me such joy. His smile, his neediness, his mischieviousness, it all makes me so proud to be his mama.

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I love you my sweet boy. Happy, happy birthday.

June 24, 2008

Fun with stickers!

Filed under: motherhood stuff - Administrator @ 9:14 am

When the kids are playing together quietly and nicely - I am always worried it is going to result in a big mess for me to clean up…
The other day - I found this:
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Sam didn’t seem to mind being covered with stickers - and Rosie had a great time decorating her brother!

June 19, 2008

Kids Update June 2008

Filed under: motherhood stuff, Rosie stuff, Sam stuff - Administrator @ 11:53 am

Wow - Another month has flown by and once again I am surprised when it is (past) time for another monthly update…
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First off - Happy Birthday to me! I turned 34 on the first and had the best birthday! I got to sleep in - and had chocolate pancakes made for me for breakfast, and then later I went and got a massage and a pedicure, and came home to a dozen roses and some awesome J.Crew dresses and a new Mac laptop! How awesome is my family!!!

Ok - off to the update…
The big news this month - Sammy is walking! He is not doing it consistently - probably only 50% of the time, but he goes through spurts where he will walk 10-15 feet or so and he will be on his feet - walking and standing- for up to 15 minutes. I have a feeling by next month he will be walking all the time. He is so proud of himself when he walks around - he usually starts clapping and squealing and smiling!


He is eating pretty much everything now - including the stuff you are supposed to wait on - like eggs, fish, honey and nuts. He has had scrambled eggs, tuna fish, salmon, honey bunnies cereal, peanut butter bumpers cereal and some pad thai noodles with traces of peanuts on them - so I think we are pretty sure he has no food allergies. He basically just eats off our plates, sometimes he eats one meal a day, sometimes he eats all 3 meals with us - some days he eats only dry cereal - it all depends. Some days his meals are chosen because they are the least messy things to eat - (i.e. dry cereal, cucumbers, apple slices) Mostly it depends on how much cleaning I want to do :-)
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Also, we have finally seemed to come upon a peaceful sleep solution for Sammy. I spent about a week lying in his room every night at bedtime- just being present while he went to sleep to get him used to sleeping in his crib and going to sleep on his own without needing me or needing to be nursed or rocked to sleep. I would nurse and rock him until he was almost asleep, then put him in his crib and tell him “good night, go to sleep” and I would lie down on the futon in his room and just watch while he fussed and squirmed and played and settled himself down to sleep. Sometimes he would stand up and cry and I would get up and gently lie him back down and say “lie down, go to sleep”.
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At the beginning of the week, he would scream bloody murder if I left the room - and I spent about an hour and a half in the room with him until he finally fell asleep. The time progressively got shorter and shorter -and now I can leave the room when he is still awake and he (usually) goes right to sleep on his own! Yippie!!! He has been sleeping in 4 hour chunks (though I got 7 hours straight out of him one night!!!) and I have been bringing him in to our bed to nurse when he wakes up the first time and co-sleeping after that. But I think our co-sleeping relationship may be just about over as the last few nights he has not settled down in our bed - he has been sitting up and babbling and crawling all over Joe and I. So, I have been putting him back into his room after nursing - and he has been going back to sleep fine in his bed without fussing or whining.

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If is interesting because it seems that Rosie and Sam had opposite sleeping struggles. Rosie was sleeping from 8pm-6am in her crib starting at around 10 months - but naps were such a struggle! I could not get her to nap without me and spent hours every day lying in bed with her to get her to nap. Sammy, on the other hand, goes right to sleep in his crib for naps with (pretty much) no problem - but he has still been waking a ton at night. I am hoping (fingers crossed) that the new trend is Sammy sleeping 7-8 hours straight now that he is walking and has gone through that developmental phase that was keeping him from sleeping soundly.
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Rosie is still napping - and we have settled into a good naptime routine with both kids. Sammy takes a morning nap around 2-3 hours after waking up , and during this time, Rosie and I get to have some quality mommy-daughter time. We play candyland, or paint, or cut paper with scissors, or paint her nails - the things that we can’t really do with Sam around because he gets into everything. Then, both kids usually nap around the same time sometime between 2-5 in the afternoon. This is HEAVEN for me and the only way I really get anything done.

We have been playing a lot outside with the beautiful weather we have been having. We got a kite recently and Rosie thinks it is so cool to fly a kite in the backyard.
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Both kids love to climb the slide and swing on the new swingset, they love playing in the sandbox,
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blowing bubbles,
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digging in the garden and picking strawberries, and splashing in the little kiddie pool I set up on the deck! Sam loves to get water in his mouth and then spit it out - he thinks it is hilarious!
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Rosie has been very into pretending lately - and her new activity is pretending to write stories. She will take a pen and a notebook and scribble all over it and tell me she is writing me a “good morning story” or “good night story” or some other story. I will ask her what the story says and it is usually something like

“It is about us, and you and me and daddy are singing me a good night song and it was really pretty and I love it and it maked me feel better and then I went to sleep like a big girl and you and daddy were sooooooooo happy and then I waked up in the morning and said good morning mommy and daddy and my baby brother and his name is Sammy the Wolf and he is getting bigger and bigger like me and soon he will be a big sister too!”

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She doesn’t quite get the whole “sister-brother” relationship. When talking about how she is Sammy’s sister and he his her brother - she told her Bubby “and mommy and daddy are sister and brother too!” - um - no.

She also likes to come up with solutions to problems on her own and pretend to fix things. She had a toy that wasn’t working the other day and she had a very serious look on her face and was telling me “I am just trying to figure out what’s wrong - I think it is out of batteries - but that’s ok because we can fix it! Because I am a good fixer and you are a good fixer too mommy”.

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She still is just a chatterbox and talks almost non-stop, coming up with things out of the blue like we were just talking about them. Here are some things she has said out of the blue recently.
“And Gigi likes scrambled eggs too!”
“And Dora was at the beach like we go to the beach”
“And when I was a baby I would say “mama” like that”

She still loves rhyming things too - and it amazes me the words she knows - just this morning she told me:
“Coat and moat rhyme! Tool and stool and pool rhyme! And dog and log, and heart and part and frog and log, and hat and mat and couch and pouch and cat and pat, and ball and wall!” Can you tell we have been reading a lot of Dr. Seuss lately?

She has been practicing writing her name, and is getting pretty good at the “R” and she can do the “O” and the “I” no problem, but she always needs help with the “S” and “E”. She is still really wanting to read too. She can read some familiar words, and likes practicing sounding out the individual letters - but still struggles when trying to put all the sounds together. Sometimes she surprises me with “reading” and I think she is good at guessing words that are somewhat familiar. We bought some books at a garage sale the other day, and one was called “Fish out of Water” and had a big picture of a fish on the front - and I know we haven’t read it or seen it before. Rosie pulled it out of the bag and said “and this one is called Fish out of Water!

We went to a local carnival/fair at the end of May and Rosie loved riding all the rides. She is so brave she rode the kiddie roller coaster all by herself and was laughing the whole time!
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Last week I took the kids to a portrait studio to get some photos taken for Father’s Day for Joe. They turned out really great.
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We also made some cool hand and foot print paintings for Joe for Father’s day. Sam’s hands and feet are just barely smaller than Rosie’s!
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I still can’t believe that next month I will have a 3 year old and a 1 year old!
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May 11, 2008

Kids update May 2008

Filed under: motherhood stuff, Rosie stuff, Sam stuff - Administrator @ 8:01 pm

Happy Mother’s Day to all my fellow mamas! I can’t think of a better way to celebrate than to talk about my wonderful kids and share with you the joy they bring to my life.
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We have really been enjoying the spring and spending a lot of time outdoors. We have been to the zoo a few times, and we took the kids to a Tigers game at Comerica Park- it was the first time for Sammy.
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It was nice to spend a sunny afternoon at the ballpark, eating peanuts and hot dogs, and Rosie insisted we all go on the baseball ferris wheel!
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Sammy is now 10 months old - I can’t believe how fast these months have flown by. He looks like such a little boy to me now with his mouth full of teeth. Speaking of teeth, sometime last month he chipped his left front tooth! (you can see it in the photo below of him snacking of a purple crayon)
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I didn’t even notice it until days (weeks?) later - he falls so much with all of his standing and cruising and getting into things, he has bumped his head and mouth more times than I can count. I was actually nursing him when I noticed it because his tooth felt sharper, and sure enough - he has a tiny little sliver missing from the bottom of his left front tooth. He has also been making a noise almost like a mix between clearing his throat and a woody woodpecker laugh - “eh-eh-eh-eh-eh”. He loves putting things in and out, opening doors and closing them, and putting hands and things in our mouths. He is still not eating a whole lot - chewing and spitting things out - just tasting mostly. His favorites lately are blueberries and black beans. He also loves eating books, paper, crayons, chalk and dirt. He loves the vacuum, and chases it around whenever I am cleaning - trying to bite it and using it to hold on and stand up. He is just so dang cute (most of the time).
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The bad news is that he is still SCREAMING a lot. I know he is just frustrated because he can’t talk and he is trying to communicate - but HOLY CRAP - it is so piercing and annoying and Rosie has started covering her ears with her hands when he starts up. I am trying to teach him some simple signs for “nurse” “book” “eat” “more” “diaper” and etc. in the hopes he will start to be able to communicate and stop the screaming. He is also still nursing all night long. I am hoping once he starts walking and talking and finishes up with these developmental milestones- he will hopefully start sleeping better. He is like an alarm clock - regardless of what time he goes to sleep - he wakes up every morning at 7:30 on the dot. He has started saying “mamamamamamam” a lot lately - I think he means me as he does it mostly when he is grumpy and tired and wants to be held…

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He is still on the verge of walking. He’s just not quite ready to do it on his own, but he walks while just barely holding one of my hands and stands on his own all the time. He hasn’t gone from the floor to standing on his own without holding onto anything, but when I put him down he stands up by himself and when he pulls himself up to stand, he lets go all the time and stands on his own for 30 seconds and more. He took his first tentative step yesterday - but could only manage one step before he lost his balance and fell down.

Oh, and I gave him his first haircut (just a trim really) a couple days ago - and it seems I cut off most of the darker hair color - his hair looks much blonder now and fuller and it is starting to curl up like Rosie’s hair too…
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Rosie has been her usual precocious almost 3 year year old self. She is learning to swing on her own, with the help of the new swingset/playstructure in backyard that was an early birthday present from GiGi.
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She is counting all the time, wanting to practice counting to 100 - still needing help with the 50, 60, 70 numbers. She is really making strides with learning to read. She knows what letters start words, and she is learning to sound out words and she can read certain words in books. She is always saying things like “Hey- chip and dip rhyme!”

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Lately Rosie has been saying things that I have heard come out of my own mouth - things like:
“Good job sharing mommy”
“Aww - come here and give me a hug, thank you for sharing with my little brother”
“Come on cars! Let’s go!”

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She has had a very active imagination lately. Putting her dolls to sleep, making food in her play kitchen, pretending to be a butterfly, etc. She said to me the other day “Remember when I was a mommy pig?” and I said “you were a mommy pig?” and she said “Yeah” and she proceeded to tell me all about her life as a pig mommy and how she used to nurse her babies and play.
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She is really so smart and I forget how literal she takes things (or how silly some common sayings sound).
She has had a rough patch of sharing with her brother and has pushed him down quite a few times in effort to get him out of her way or away from her toys. In the heat of the moment on one such occasion, when she had pushed Sammy down and he had a bleeding lip and was crying I looked at Rosie and asked the rhetorical question (as has been uttered my many moms through the years) “How many times do I have to tell you to not push your brother?” - Rosie looked at me with her serious face and said “Nine. You have to tell me nine times mommy”. I barely could keep a straight face when I told her that I am sure I have told her at least 10 times now, so she should know not to do that.

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She has also been singing and making up her own songs a lot. At dinner the other night, she started singing ‘Uh oh dudes, I dropped my cauliflower, that’s ok, I’ll pick it up.”

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Oh they are so sweet, my pride (Rosie) and joy (Sammy).
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Here are some videos I took recently - just so you can get a glimpse into my life:

Sammy playing peek-a-boo:

Rosie talking to me while having lunch at the zoo:

Rosie blowing raspberries on Sammy to make him laugh:

Happy Mother’s Day to all, and especially to Tess, my loving mommy who still inspires me daily and has been a wonderful role model for my life - especially for motherhood. I am so very lucky to have such an amazing family.

February 16, 2008

Sea-Green Designs

Filed under: motherhood stuff, misc stuff - Administrator @ 10:26 pm

So, I have finally started a business as an outlet for all my craftiness and things I have been making for myself. My new business name is Sea-Green Designs LLC. I have a store set up on etsy - and might even get my own website up and running soon, depending on how fast my sales take off…

Right now I am making:
Cozy Dolls.
Made of 100% recycled cashmere and filled with a rice/lavender blend. You just heat up in the microwave and put in bed with your kids to keep them cozy and warm on cold nights, or to soothe tummy aches, or just in lieu of a warm body in bed when kids are transitioning from co-sleeping to their own bed. The lavender scent is soothing and aids sleeping too…

Nursing Necklaces: Stylish, yet functional. Keep those little hands busy (and keep them from scratching or pinching you) while nursing.

Sea-Green Wraps:
A stretchy baby wrap (similar to a moby wrap) with style. Made from a cotton blend, with a little stretch, and with a super cute design on the front middle panel. I realized with 2 kids that babywearing is SUCH a necessity - since I am wearing Sam pretty much every day - I made several different wraps to wear with every outfit and wanted to be cute at the same time, so I came up with the idea of putting a design on the front - and I have gotten so many compliments on them!

Check out my etsy store and let me know what you think…

Custom orders available too….

January 22, 2008

Pro-Choice and Pro-Children

Filed under: motherhood stuff, misc stuff - Administrator @ 4:01 pm

Blog for Choice Day

I usually don’t post anything of substance on this blog. It is mostly for updating family and friends on my life and showing off my super cute kids. But today, I thought I would take the plunge and take a stand on national “Blog for Choice Day” - copying my friend Mandie at Quintessential Quentin.

I have always been pro-choice, for as long as I can remember being aware of what abortion is. I have several friends who have opted to take advantage of this right and end a pregnancy (I even accompanied one friend to the clinic). Some are thankful, some are regretful, and I believe all of them still have some deep feelings associated with the procedure to this day.

The whole idea of abortion took on a new meaning, though, once I became pregnant and could feel the little baby growing inside me. Obviously, I wanted the baby and planned it, but it still made the whole idea of abortion take on a much more serious and deeper meaning. I think that abortion is, in some cases, an easy decision to make because the idea of growing another human inside you is so abstract, until you really feel the baby move, or hear the heartbeat, and you think - “holy shit - there is a little person inside me!”.

I definitely believe abortion should still be an option for women - but I really wish it would be taken more seriously too. I don’t think abortion should be used as birth control “oh shoot, honey - we’re pregnant again, better call the clinic”. But sometimes, despite someone’s best efforts, birth control does fail. And if that happens, then what?

I think my views can be best expressed by (fictional) Presidential candidate Matthew Santos, in the final season of The West Wing (best show ever!) When speaking of abortion, he said “I think abortion is a tragedy. I think it should be safe, it should be legal, and it should be a whole lot rarer than it is now”.

I am so glad that my friends were able to take advantage of this right, and I am glad it was there, had I gotten pregnant in high school, I would probably have gone that same route (hard to say). I want it to be an option, should Rosie ever (god forbid) find herself in a situation where she was pregnant before she was ready (unlikely as Joe has already decided she will not be allowed out of the house with boys until she is 30).

I think that growing a baby inside you is a HUGE, life-changing experience. Raising a child if you are unable or unwilling to do so isn’t the best choice for the mom or baby, giving a baby up for adoption would also be unbelievably hard to do (despite what Juno would have you believe) - and I am sure having an abortion is not an ideal situation either - but sometimes it is the right, responsible, only choice to make.

It is a choice, it is not the right choice for everybody, but it should continue to be a choice for all women. And it is especially important we remember this as we gear up to elect a new president - we need to make sure it is one who will protect a woman’s right to make that choice.

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November 27, 2007

The Business of Being Born

Filed under: pregnancy stuff, birth stuff, motherhood stuff, misc stuff - Administrator @ 5:35 pm

I was lucky enough to see a pre-release screening of the Ricki Lake produced documentary The Business of Being Born a few weeks ago at my midwife’s birth center.

Obviously I am a fan of giving birth at home, having had both Rosie and Sam at home in our bathtub, so the movie was like preaching to the choir for me. I also know that a homebirth is not the right choice for every woman, but this movie has a lot of great information that I think most mainstream moms don’t realize when they check into the hospital to have a baby. The sad truth is that a great number of decisions made during the labor and delivery process are made for the convenience of the doctor and hospital, and to avoid any possibility of a lawsuit - not necessarily what is best for the mother and baby.

I highly recommend that every woman see this movie - heck, every person should see this movie. It will be released in a few markets in January, and then available on Netflix shortly after that.

Here are some details, taken directly from the press materials for the movie:

Birth is a miracle, a rite of passage, a natural part of life. But birth is also big business.

Compelled to explore the subject after the delivery of her first child, actress Ricki Lake recruits filmmaker Abby Epstein to question the way American women have babies.

In 2001, Ricki Lake gave birth to her second child with the assistance of a midwife in her home bathtub. She made the choice for a home birth after she experienced unwanted medical interventions while delivering her first child at a hospital birthing center. Ricki succeeded in giving birth on her own terms and the experience was so unexpectedly empowering and life-changing that she felt every woman should know what they could be missing out on. Ricki approached filmmaker Abby Epstein (Director of Emmy-Award winning UNTIL THE VIOLENCE STOPS) to collaborate on a film that would examine birth culture in America.

Epstein gains access to several pregnant New York City women as they weigh their options. Some of these women are or will become clients of Cara Muhlhahn, a charismatic midwife who, between birth events, shares both memories and footage of her own birth experience.

Footage of women having babies punctuates THE BUSINESS OF BEING BORN. Each experience is unique; all are equally beautiful and equally surprising. Giving birth is clearly the most physically challenging event these women have ever gone through, but it is also the most emotionally rewarding.

Along the way, Epstein conducts interviews with a number of obstetricians, experts and advocates about the history, culture and economics of childbirth. The film’s fundamental question: should most births be viewed as a natural life process, or should every delivery be treated as a potential medical emergency?

As Epstein uncovers some surprising answers, her own pregnancy adds a very personal dimension to THE BUSINESS OF BEING BORN, a must-see movie for anyone even thinking about having a baby.

What We Learn From

THE BUSINESS OF BEING BORN

To most people, the idea of giving birth outside of a hospital seems foolish and even dangerous: why would any parent limit their newborn’s access to technology in the event of an emergency? Why would any couple put their child’s life in the hands of a midwife instead of an obstetrician?

“Most obstetricians,” we learn from obstetrician Dr. Michel Odent, “have no idea what a birth can be like.”

Adds Susan Hodges, president of the organization called Citizens for Midwifery: “Very few doctors have ever observed a normal birth, either in medical school or in the hospital. It [normal birth] is almost an oxymoron.”

Epstein’s camera verifies this when she asks three female OB/GYN residents at NYU’s Bellevue Hospital Center how often they get to see “a fully natural birth.” “Rarely,” one says. “Almost never,” says another.

Indeed, Epstein’s own obstetrician, Dr. Jacques Mortiz of New York City’s St. Luke’s Roosevelt Hospital, tells her, “I always think that midwives do a better job at the normal deliveries than we do. For a normal, low-risk woman, it’s overkill going to a doctor, it’s almost too much. The doctor is not really excited about things when they’re normal.”

“An obstetrician is a trained surgeon,” explains Carolyn Havens Neimann, a certified nurse-midwife.

“They should be doing childbirth surgery all day, every day, when needed,” adds Elan Vital McAllister, president of New York’s Choices In Childbirth. “They should not be doing normal births because they’re not trained in it. They have no idea how to do it.”

In America, midwives attend less than 8% of all births and less than 1% of those that occur outside a hospital. At the same time, the US has the second worst newborn death rate in the developed world.

So how did we get here?

In 1900, 95% of all births took place in the home. In 1938, half the births took place at home, and the trend continued to spiral downward.

According to Robbie Davis-Floyd, a PhD in medical anthropology, “In the early 1900s, physicians in the east but also in the deep south to some extent went on a very effective smear campaign against midwives.” Davis-Floyd cites one poster that invoked racist imagery, depicting “a black granny midwife in a very poor home.”

“It was sort of a cultural shift where midwives were portrayed as a vestige of the old country,” adds Tina Cassidy, author of the book Birth: The Surprising History of How We Are Born. “They were [portrayed as] dirty, they were ignorant, they were illiterate.” At the same time, “Hospitals were offered as this gleaming, wonderful place where you could go and have a baby that would be cleaner and safer. The reality of course was that giving birth with an obstetrician at that time was much more dangerous than giving birth with a midwife because as doctors were graduating from medical school, many had not witnessed a live birth before they went out to practice.”

As public heath expert Nadine Goodman puts it, “All of sudden, the concept of ‘normal’ changed,” as hospitals specializing in obstetrics started springing up around the country, creating a demand for their services as well as some stigmatizing alternatives.

But as new drugs, technologies and techniques developed, did hospital childbirth get safer? Not really. Indeed, when it comes to obstetrics, mainstream medicine seems to feel its way – dangerously – in the dark.

THE BUSINESS OF BEING BORN touches on a number of past medical interventions that have gone terribly wrong. The film explores the use of the drug scopolamine in the 40s, 50s and 60s that put mothers into a kind of “twilight sleep” that didn’t stop pain, but merely eliminated the memory of pain by attacking the brain functions responsible for self-awareness and self-control, resulting in a kind of psychosis, followed by post-traumatic stress-like memories in thousands of new mothers. In the 30s doctors routinely took x-rays of the pelvis, resulting in babies with cancer. In the 70s, use of the drug thalidomide, used for morning sickness, caused birth defects, while in the 90s, the drug Cytotec was used to stimulate contractions in mothers who had undergone previous Cesarean section. This was later found to cause ruptured uteruses and high infant mortality.

“The point here,” observes Dr. Marsden Wagner, former director of Women’s and Children’s Health, World Health Organization, “is there’s not a good history in obstetric practice of careful study of the long term effects of all these interventions. This is why, if you really want a humanized birth, the best thing to do is get the hell out of the hospital.”

The film points out that some of the most traditional practices of contemporary obstetrics have everything to do with the convenience of the physician, but can actually make delivery more difficult for the mother.

Every woman depicted giving birth on TV or at the movies is shown in the “lithotomy position,” on her back on a gurney, legs suspended in stirrups, the doctor standing between her legs and encouraging her to “push.”

“The lithotomy position is the most physiologically dysfunctional position ever invented,” says medical anthropologist Robbie Davis-Floyd, author of Birth as an American Rite of Passage. “Putting the mother flat on her back literally makes the pelvis smaller, makes it much more difficult for the woman to use her stomach muscles to push, and therefore makes it much more likely for an episiotomy to be cut, or for forceps to be used, or for the vacuum extractor to be used.”

Obstetrician Dr. Ronaldo Cortes prefers the mother to squat during labor, explaining that while this position is easier for the mother and her baby, squatting is much more stressful on the doctor, whose job is to “catch” the baby.

It also seems like every conversation about an impending birth includes a mention of the coveted “epidural,” a lumbar injection that kills pain below the waist. But, as Ricki Lake observes, the introduction of one drug during her first delivery caused “a big snowball effect.” The epidural kills pain but it also retards natural contractions. To keep contractions active, a drug call pitocin is often administered. The pitocin makes contractions longer, stronger and closer together, causing more pain, and then consequently another epidural. This then requires more pitocin, which again causes longer and stronger contractions, and stress to the baby. Ultimately, this often triggers an emergency Cesarean section. The sum total of such interventions is ostensibly a shorter labor, benefiting the hospital, but certainly a more stressful one for the mother and baby.

Finally, statistics indicate that the use of Cesarean section, a major surgery, is being widely employed, more as a measure of convenience for both doctor and patient instead of a last resort in the event of an emergency.

Dr. Michael Brodman, Chief OB/GYN at New York’s Mount Sinai Hospital, cites a study that reveals the peak hours for Cesarean section procedures are 4:00pm and 10:00pm. Brodman interprets the data from the perspective of the hospital-based physician: “It’s obvious,” he says, “that four in the afternoon is ‘It’s late in the day, I don’t know what’s going on here, I want to get out of here and the ten o’clock at night is, ‘I don’t want to be up all night.’”

“Somebody clearly is going to have to step in and stop the trend” of high C-section rates, Brodman warns, “or else we’re going to get to 100%.”

After completing THE BUSINESS OF BEING BORN, Epstein and Lake have drawn the conclusion that many women unknowingly give up a potentially life-altering and empowering experience. A hospital environment is not conducive to the true needs of a laboring woman, making a birth without intervention almost impossible. As a result, the physician, instead of the mother, delivers the baby,

During a visit with Lake at her home in California, Epstein, who was pregnant at the time, asked about Lake’s contrasting birth experiences. It’s clear that Epstein was there as both a journalist and someone who was making some very personal decisions about the delivery of her own child.

“I wanted a home birth experience almost as much as I wanted a second child,” Lake offers. “I love pain medication, I love numbing myself. I don’t want to feel even a headache. I’m that person, too. But when it came to giving birth, it wasn’t an illness, it wasn’t something that needed to be numbed. It was something to be experienced.”

In a subsequent interview, Lake tries to explain the significance of the event:

“That is just everything to me,” she says. “I could start sobbing right now. It was so empowering. This was what I was after. This is what I wanted for my child.”

Like most American women, Epstein always imagined herself giving birth in a hospital, and, due to the premature arrival of her child, this was indeed her path. But she remains convinced that THE BUSINESS OF BEING BORN makes a compelling argument for more humanistic approaches to birth, challenging the ideals of our technocratic society which places absolute faith in machines and technology.

“In a culture where all of our rituals have become standardized and commercialized, birth is the one rite of passage that can remain individualized and sacred if parents are exposed to the truth behind the medical myths,” Epstein said recently.

Epstein and Lake also hope audiences and policy makers will recognize the economic truth about birth outside of a hospital: it’s cheaper, something insurance companies should theoretically embrace.

Carol Leonard, a nurse-midwife and director of the New Hampshire Birth Center, cites that hospitals in her state charge $13,000 for a normal vaginal birth, while she charges $4,000 “for everything, including post-natal care.” Births that take place with multiple interventions and Cesarean section can cost as much as $35,000.

However, as medical anthropologist Robbie Davis-Floyd points out, the medical-industrial complex – the relationship between hospitals, the powerful lobby group the American Medical Association, and the insurance companies – has a history of discouraging home births, and discouraging midwives who practice in a hospital setting. Indeed, Epstein’s camera captures one birth center associate struggling to get an insurance company to re-process a claim from a new mother who gave birth at their facility. While Mayra, one of the film’s expectant mothers who chose home birth, reports that her insurance company had a hard time understanding that there even was an alternative to hospital birth.

“The whole insurance thing has been kind of crazy,” Mayra tells Epstein. “Everyone was acting like I had a third eye. It’s cheaper to have a birth with a midwife; you’d think they would be all over it. So it kind of makes you wonder what the agenda is.”

“Why has the medical model of birth gone unchallenged for so long?” Epstein and Lake ask. “And why do less than 8% of Americans take advantage of the benefits of midwifery, which is statistically safer and cheaper than physician-attended birth?”

As the nation’s heath care crisis continues to grow, the filmmakers hope THE BUSINESS OF BEING BORN will ultimately play a role in heath-care reform and raise awareness of the options for parents of the future. They also hope to enlighten and inspire parents to advocate for themselves and to “own” their birth experience wherever it takes place.

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