Comments on: love is love

by: Administrator

Mon, 17 Nov 2008 09:58:52 +0000

Love you too AP and I am so glad you come on here regularly to catch up on my life and you keep everyone else in the family informed too. It is great that we can keep in touch somewhat with everyone’s busy lives. Give Aunt Tina and Grandmama and Loretta and everyone else my love . I hope we can come out for a visit soon and you can meet my adorable kids in person!
xoxo
chels

by: Auntie Paule

Thu, 06 Nov 2008 00:23:08 +0000

I am not talking about personal values, or how it affects me. I am talking about a nation and its values, and how it affects all the people, adults and children. I am not saying gays cannot be allowed to love one another, or be joined in a civil union, for legal benefits. But I know we will never agree, so lets agree to disagree. I also feel abortion devalues life, and that is another area where we disagree. I think the choice is whether or not to have unprotected sex, casual sex, etc. That is the choice. All God’s children are precious. Each argument has a side, and you and I are on opposing sides. That makes the world interesting, anyway. I love you and yours with all my heart.
( sorry to hear the news about Billie and Bill Joe… they are in my prayers.)

by: Administrator

Wed, 05 Nov 2008 16:26:16 +0000

Hmmm - interesting point AP - I agree that marriage started out about values - but I don’t believe it was about personal or moral values, it was really about monetary or property values. Women were seen as the property of men and marriages were arranged for merely the purpose of providing heirs to the men’s family and continuing their name. As you said women’s only “value” was to bear children and were quickly cast aside if they could not do that. I think we have come a long way now that marriage is based on LOVE and can be entered into willingly by 2 consenting adults - no matter what race or economic status - something that was unheard of until very recently. We have changed our views on marriage as we have grown as a nation and people and we need to value equal rights for everybody. As recently as 1998 - South Carolina finally changed its constitutional laws forbidding “marriage of a white person with a Negro or mulatto or a person who should have one-eighth or more Negro blood.”
Doesn’t it seem silly now to have race be a factor in marriage? I think we all need to come into the 21st century and have equal rights for ALL - marriage is a union between 2 people who love each other. There should be no other stipulation than that. Calling it something else is like having 2 separate water fountains - the whole “separate but equal” thing doesn’t really work. I don’t believe it devalues my role as a woman to have 2 men married. Just as it doesn’t devalue my role as a mother to have women going to work and men staying home and acting as primary caregiver. People don’t play traditional “roles” anymore, and LOVE should be the only factor in a relationship. You got married because you love your husband, not for any other reason - right? So, does it change your love or your marriage just because Bob and Dan can get married too? Does it change how your husband values you as a person?

by: Auntie Paule

Thu, 30 Oct 2008 22:20:37 +0000

It isn’t a matter of rights. It is a matter of values. In the ancient times, homosexuality was practiced, mostly by the nobility. Wives were merely “baby makers” and men had their fun with other men. When God said this was wrong, he was demanding a higher value for the wife, and making man realize that he was to value the sexual nature of his wife. A lesbian relationship devalues the need for a man in a family. A gay relationship devalues the woman’s role in a family. Gays in California have civil unions which allow them all the legal rights of married couples, but without devaluing the word marriage as a religious sacrament, which it is for many. We cannot
keep devaluing things that made this country great.